HOW TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU
November 16, 2020
There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.
We all want to be liked, appreciated, or acknowledged by people; especially when we think getting accepted by them will make us feel better about ourselves.
When we start to rely on what other people think of us and their opinion on every decision we make, we give our power to them allowing their impressions to become how we are perceived. We start living our lives to fit the expectations of others.
Here are some tips on how to stop worrying about what other people think of you:
Recognize when it happens:
To break a habit you need to pay attention to what triggers it, when it happens, how you react to the situation, etc.
So let’s say whenever you have a work presentation, you keep wondering what your colleagues will think of your work, you keep telling yourself you don’t belong there cause you aren’t as smart as the others, or how you’ll mess up the entire presentation.
Why do we stress ourselves worrying about what other people think?
It’s simple, we are worried about what other people think because we are taking the judgments we hold against ourselves and projecting them onto others, assuming they believe the same things that we believe about ourselves.
Pay attention to the kind of thoughts you let yourself have, and work on letting yourself know you’ll make mistakes on some days, but that doesn’t define you or your success. Accept that there is going to be someone with more degrees or more experience but that doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy to sit at the same table with them.
Whenever you notice yourself judging yourself, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you are awesome and good enough.
Stop trying to please everyone:
It is exhausting trying to please people. It’s impossible trying to live up to everyone’s expectations, and you will burn yourself out if you try to. Please yourself and let others be. Not everyone is going to like you, and that’s OK.
Keep your perspective:
Other people’s opinions are based on their beliefs and behaviors, not yours. Be who you want to be from your perspective because what may be good for them may be terrible for you, and vice versa.
Overthinking can make you feel you’re always judged even when that is not the situation. Whenever you find yourself overthinking some situations, try thinking positive thoughts to distract yourself.
Accept constructive feedback:
When you have a major decision to make, it’s okay to accept constructive feedback from people you trust.
Most people feel being blunt without caring how it affects the receiver is them giving constructive feedback, recognize this kind of people and avoid them.
Life is short:
The moment we realize how short life is, we won’t concentrate on pleasing every Tom, Dick, and Harry. We will channel more energy into doing what’s best for us.
Everyone has their own lives to live, don’t give anyone the power to live both their lives and yours.
The moment you make the conscious effort to let go of what people may think of you, you will begin to see life differently and be more appreciative of the things you have accomplished.
Most people will love you, and most people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you. Make your choices, make your mistakes, learn from every mistake you make, and try not to condemn yourself especially for things you have no control over. Learn to stop blaming people for your mistakes.
Do you ever worry about what people think about you? How do you pull yourself out of such situations? Please share in the comment section.
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